We Are All Broken by Devi Nina Bingham

You are broken. I am broken. Even if you don't consider yourself broken, we're all broken to some extent. My mother and grandmother taught me how to maintain a "stiff upper lip" like the image of a dog trained to smile like a human, with its top lip quivering. My family's women only wanted to turn me into a good soldier, not to educate me in invulnerability. Furthermore, films like G.I. Jane taught me to be discreetly stronger than men who brag to their friends but then return home to be subservient and meek because their girlfriend, wife, or mother is in charge.

My maternal grandmother helped to raise me, and because I got to see her relationship with my grandfather up close, I realized that Grandpa was pampered and spoiled by my grandmother. He earned the money while Grandma was the planner, the organizer, the strategist, and the problem-solver, as well as the hired help. She was the brains of the outfit who shouldered the harsh realities of life. My Grandfather read the newspaper as Grandma fretted and stewed over the problems. Gramps would only come to life as the protector when asked to, when he absolutely had to. I admired how courageous my grandmother was while noting how withdrawn Grandpa was. This curious domestic pattern was repeated in my friend's homes. The mother wore the pants in her domain, while the father was the omnipotent male in charge when at work. I saw it as a balancing act of male and female energy. 

At school, girls were allowed to shine, but only so brightly. Boys were given the preferential treatment as they had the best sports equipment, the best coaches, and the best fields and practice times, yet their classroom participation was often lackluster compared to the girls. We were expected not to complain about our second-class treatment in life and to keep a smile on our face. If you did not smile, you were told that you were not as attractive as the other girls. The school photographer held up his hand and crooned, "Smile!" This command to smile was not expected of boys who could look as mean and tough as they wanted, and nobody called them difficult. 

It was not safe to show how you really felt except to your closest girlfriends or to your mother. My mother had been told by my grandmother, who was a bank manager, to "put your Bank of America smile on, and never let them see you sweat." My grandmother, one tough cookie, had learned never to let the mask slip if you wanted to play in the big leagues with the men. When I shared my real feelings with my mother or grandmother, I was reminded of my responsibility as the big sister and to set a good example. I was not able to show fear, weakness, or insecurity. Those were undesirable traits. Because there was little room for real feelings, I turned into glass. I had to harden. But as I seized up emotionally, I became as fragile as glass, though I was not see-through. Nobody could see through me unless I wanted them to. I was more like frosted glass. And when dropped, I shattered. Reality would splinter, making it difficult to piece anything together again. This is how we get shattered—we have held ourselves together too long, pretending jagged rocks of words and betrayals did not hurt us, wearing phony smiles slapped on top of broken glass.

There are those among us who have broken so many times that they do not feel very much at all. Their breaks were catastrophic, more like Grand Canyons than potholes in the road of life. These stopped smiling altogether and prefer to live on the fringes of society. They may refer to themselves as introverts, but it is much more serious than that. They are not merely inward-turned; they are a personality devoid of something. A car cannot run off a cliff without being mangled. Something catastrophic happened to these people, something terrible and unforgettable, something nightmares are made of. I would call these people "the forgotten" because they may have been written off by society and their families as unredeemable. In turn, they have no need, no desire to be part of a society or family who only want them to keep smiling. These are a subset of society who refuse to play the game of respectability anymore; they have grown beyond the rules. They mark out their own standards and rules. Their pain was so consequential that being a part of society was not an option anymore. The mask had slipped once and for all.

I am a forgotten person living on the edge, doing my own thing and making my own rules, living an unapologetic existence. But do not feel sorry for me, for it was a conscious choice to leave what I found to be a contrived and plastic life, which held no meaning for me anymore. I wanted to find myself, to find my real self, and I did. It took many years of inner searching to find the me that time had buried, but eventually I unearthed her. It was an excavation of the girl I had once been. The tragedy of this story, and it is everyone's story, is that my inner child was the best part of me. She was the beautiful and innocent part that should never have changed. She should have stayed, for the layers of adulthood meant nothing. But she was chased away in my effort to be brave, to be strong and resilient. Not that those qualities were bad, but in the process of becoming something, I sacrificed my core self, what I was destined to be, which was a strawberry blond, green-eyed, laughing daredevil. A musical leprechaun I was, full of melodies and magic. Then I was told that I had to be a way I wasn't, so I changed, and so did you.

The question for us is, how do we get back what was lost, what was ours at birth but taken from us? Of all important questions, this seems to me, late in life, to be the most urgent. How do we get back what was traded away, like gold exchanged for tin foil? Who you and I were, that organic, shiny, innocent kid is still at the heart of us all. Isn't that good to know? In reality we did not give it away but covered it up. As years of pretending were piled on, our real selves, our souls, disappeared. But while we cover it up and ignore it, a soul is assigned to us for an eternity. It has not gone anywhere; you have. You moved away from it. When told you were not good enough, you dressed it up and someone patted you on the head and said, "Good lad," or "Thata girl." The only solution is to remember yourself as you once were. You may have traveled a long way from where you started, and this is perfectly fine. But try and catch a glimpse of yourself as you began this journey. 

Know that you will never be that child again; it is not possible. Too many events have passed to go back now, and you are no longer that child. That is only a memory of who you once were. Life is about change; you are always changing. In ten years, you will be a different person than you are today. See that there is no way to stay the same or to turn back time. What matters now is fully accepting the person you have become without trying to change it and without rejecting it. It is vital that you do not try and put a happy face or keep a stiff upper lip. These sorts of masks only keep us apart from our real selves. You are exactly as you should be at this age and stage. There is no better place to be. There is no need to hide who you are. If others cannot understand your real feelings, it is because they are wearing a mask to hide their pain. Do not conceal your pain or the real you for anyone because that only serves to reinforce your cracks. If you are broken, as we all are, face it. Accept it. Really look carefully at yourself. The more you face your real feelings, the less you will feel the need to hide. Being cracked, even becoming "forgotten," is not a weakness; it is the result of tremendous stress and trauma. You are worthy of compassion, not judgment. And see society for what it is: a broken system that produces broken people. Nevertheless, take responsibility for giving away the parts of you that you gave away. 

Shame is the feeling or experience that something is wrong with you, that you are broken. Shame, and other people's condemnation, can make us hide ourselves, stop relating, and feel less-than. Shame is toxic because it is usually dumped upon us by other broken people working overtime to cover up how defective they are. Arrogant people are in fact struggling with an inferiority complex, or at least feelings of not measuring up. Instead of admitting feelings of brokenness, judgmental people point the accusing finger away from themselves as a detour: "Don't look at me, look over there." Shame is a trap that guilt sets, whether that guilt is warranted or not. I am not asking you to swim in a cesspool of shame. Rather, I am suggesting that when we are willing to look at ourselves with honest eyes, we can see how far we have drifted. This realization should fill us with compassion for the younger part of ourselves who felt not acceptable or not safe to be ourselves. I am not asking you to feel less than or better than anyone else. I am only stating a truth: that we are all broken. And knowing this can give you the strength to stand apart from other people's arrogance, judgmentalism, and attempts to manipulate you into whatever they want you to be. You do not deserve to live in the shadow of shame, but neither should you pretend that life has not broken you, for it has. I know that with certainty, without having to meet you. For life is a merciless steamroller whose job it is to kick the shit out of us. And if it has not done its job on you, I daresay you still have an ego that is yet to be smashed. You are broken. I am broken. We are all broken, and there is a tremendous freedom in understanding that. 

Making Sense of Living-(Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

 

The biggest mistake that you have made about life is your conception of death. You see it as something separate from life. To you, death is a robber that creeps silently, stealing your most prized possessions. It only takes and never gives. It dresses in black tatters, whispering regret. It comes too soon and leaves without apology. Upon your headstones are inscribed foolish words and a dash where your real life stood. But after life, you will know that the dash was also meaningless, because you never died. Death is only dreadful to the living, or should I say, to those embodied. A soul does not need a shell to be a soul, just as an egg does not need to a shell to be an egg. Death is the cracking of the egg and is a good thing. You cannot enjoy the egg unless the shell is first broken.

When you leave the body, you think of it no more. The joys and sorrows are dumped as you dump your garbage, no longer considered. What you called life becomes a fading memory, like a dream you try and piece back together but cannot. It counts as much as the mist that hangs over the sea which rises and disappears. You see, this life is as important as a forgotten dream because there are so many of them. What is the weight of fog lingering over the road? The road is your soul's journey stretching on as various weather conditions descend and lift, descend and lift. Thousands of weather patterns fall and rise, and while they seem very important, in the sun of it, each life is no weightier than the blink of your eyes.

Therefore, can you not try to make so much sense of it and just live it, experience it? Taste the rain and lift your face to the sunlight? Marvel at the mist and the thunder? Watch the lightening with wonder? Every day does not need to make sense. Look at the natural world. Not much of it makes sense because the creatures are busy living rather than making sense of living. Your mind tells you to figure it all out, but how will you do that, for the weather is always changing. Maybe you were only meant to wonder. Maybe you were only meant to wander. Maybe you are not meant to be God's philosopher and were meant instead to be God's lover. God's lover shares the moment with a sparkle in her eye. You only hear the music and dance. You only find the mystery in life and savor it. For truly, there is no making sense of the weather; it simply is. Life is whatever happens and whatever is given to you to manage, you must manage.

Lastly, stop blaming God for everything or claiming it is God's will that this or that happened. You have absolutely zero inkling as to why things happen as they do. When you speak for God, claiming God loves or hates this or that, what you love or hate, you are blaspheming, because you are speaking for God, and who has the right to speak for God? Can a mortal know divinity? Can a mortal interpret for God? Do not fool yourself or others claiming to know the mind of God. Instead say, "Only God knows." You cannot get into trouble saying that.

When you cannot make sense of living, do not try to. Allow events to flow into your life and to flow undisturbed out of your life. Let all things come and go. Nothing is yours to hang on to. You cannot marry it into staying, you cannot bribe it or buy it into staying. When it is time for it to go, it will. Yours is to let go, this is your only job: to release without resentment. It will take a lifetime to learn this one important lesson. You are not here to make sense of it, but to let go of it, over and again. And when the wind blows in something new, pick it up but realize that one day it will leave, too. This is the rhythm of life: the wind blows in; the wind blows out. You are not meant to comprehend the wind.

How hard is it to be in every moment, not figuring things out, not anticipating the next event so you can be prepared or to soften the blow? It is the most natural thing in the world to follow your heart and not your head. But you have gotten so used to listening to your head. Get back to your heart. Return to that stillness, that softness, that surety. Get back there and try not to leave your heart center. Do not allow your mind to have the last word, for it knows only what it cannot figure out. The heart knows nothing but feels everything. Feel everything and your heart is fully engaged. Drop thinking in favor of experiencing. Risk! The heart will risk while the head hides behind rationalizations. Surprise yourself with how delightful life can be. 

With Love,

Frida

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Be an Original (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

The phrases "I will be a famous writer," "I want to paint like Frida," or even "I will be the industry leader" are perilous since they imply self-rejection. You might believe that you are merely attempting to improve yourself and hone your skills. In reality, you are just a copycat. Because what is being perfected is more of the stand-in and less of the actual you. You can put your hair in braids and dress like me in peasant skirts, and you can paint fantastical pictures of the tragedies of life, but you will only look like a dime store copy of someone famous. The reason for this is that you failed to draw inspiration from your own individualistic imagination. You created using the inspiration of another artist, not your own. Until you give the world an original gift, you cannot claim to be an artist.

Initially, your talent may be of poor quality. You may not earn any awards or recognition. If this is the case, you have two options: continue practicing until your voice becomes distinct to you and others, or settle for second best. There is only one first place, isn't that correct? Only one person may be the original. Therefore, if you want to be the best, find out what you have to say. When said, there will only be one unique perspective, allowing you to be the best at what you do. When you duplicate someone, no matter how much you respect their brilliance, you can never say with pride and conviction, "This is an original," and you will always be second best. Staying true to your own voice and vision is essential to honoring your life's story because any product reflects the creator's journey in some manner. All work reflects the originator's thoughts and feelings. An original is determined by its origin. Allow your work to reflect you in some way. If not, you've lost the one genuine piece of life that should be sewn into it.

Because the ideas and emotions I conveyed through my paintings were entirely original, I have been referred to as original.  Had my style been a knockoff of Picasso's, a chunky, mismatched brilliance, the observer would have said, "It looks like one of Picassos." They couldn't say that, though, because mine looked just like me. Critics actually couldn't agree on how to categorize my work. I didn't like that they were referring to my works as this or that. "Why can't they be just what they are: Fridas?" I asked myself. However, people are eager to categorize things because it makes it easier for critics and sellers. I still say my style was not surreal; my style was my own. 

My work did not fit neatly into the definition of a surreal depiction, which is a representation of a central notion or idea through the use of indirect themes. For example, in "The Two Fridas," a heart connects both Fridas, symbolizing the sense of duality that I experience internally. In reality, there were not two of me sharing the same heart. However, the heart served as an indirect theme for expressing my deepest emotions. Stylized subjects appeared repeatedly in my work, such as Diego's face on my forehead. I was the only one to portray myself as a peasant in both art and life. I was the only one to illustrate the facial hair. These met the criterion of surreal, while many other paintings did not. My art was more characterized by its originality than by its bizarre components. "Frida" was proclaimed in each piece so that a person who had never seen my paintings before might recognize them. Despite the diversity of subjects, my style—the "me" that was poured into it—was indisputable.

A categorization or title shouldn't adequately capture your art; your style should. With a label like "this" or "that," you can sell it. However, don't make the error of being so commercialized that you neglect your personal signature. What makes you "you" should be evident in your work, which should reflect your soul. The difficulty is that most people don't know who they are, so they cannot define it sufficiently in their work. You may be familiar with the many roles you play, such as parent, spouse, employer, or boss. This does not imply that you are familiar with your spiritual self, which is your inspiration. How can you produce if you are not in touch with that aspect of yourself? It is the source of creativity. Be alone if you want to be an artist, for solitude and introspection reveal the truth. Without truth, there is no art. Art is really about expressing one's truth. The artist may be expressing the truth about themselves, their lives, or society, but art never lies. 

Art is like the confession you get after an injection of truth serum; it comes from the subconscious mind, which does not lie. The subconscious records reality and plays it back in dreams, disguised as characters and settings that we mistake for something different. It conceals itself while always telling the truth about what it has recorded. The subconscious is the driving force behind all artistic interpretations. Because of the world's noise and activity, only silent reflection stimulates the subconscious to express itself. Allow your spirit to extend out and listen for its message. The message might be in the shape of images or words, music or recollections, or nameless feelings. When they surface, there will be a sense of urgency and significance, and these concepts serve as messengers. Like Mercury's winged feet, they will push on you until you are forced to take up your paintbrush, sketchpad, or computer.

Original ideas do not need to be bent into the shape of another artist. It's only because you haven't spent enough time honing your trade that you might not think your artistic voice is worth hearing. Realize that your message is crucial because it has to be heard by someone. We need your voice. Continue to forge your own route. If you persevere, you will eventually discover that you are an original as well. 

With Love,

Frida

Tapas-by Devi Nina Bingham

There is a word--a concept in Hinduism that holds great significance. The Sanskrit word is "tapas." It means discipline; more exactly, disciplining oneself. Monks take this word to mean spiritual discipline, and mental purification. The Buddha starved himself in order to find the meaning of life (and found it not to work); this was his tapas. Tapas is denying ourselves what we want for what we really need. It is the opposite of gluttony, addiction and indulgence. In addition, anytime we are suffering and growing as a result, we are enduring tapas. We do not ask to suffer as the Buddha did-it just drifts into our lives when heartbreak, illness, injury, death, or a divorce comes around, so many situations in which we are involuntarily thrown in the water and asked to swim. We suffer the most when we do not have the strength or the skills to stay afloat yet are asked to stay in the water anyway. Suffering can engender a host of unwelcome emotions, among them anger, frustration, and hopelessness.

Likewise, when a seed is planted, it does not know it already has everything inside of it, a blueprint for how it should grow. It only knows the repressive darkness and heaviness above it of being buried alive. It begins to reach upward but finds no help, no light. The seed is an apt metaphor for growth. When we are in enduring Tapasya we just want to cry because the tests and trails seem too heavy to bear. We wish someone would come and lend us a hand, but nobody does. In these moments we are being asked to grow into a form we have never been before. Like the soldier being whipped into shape at bootcamp, we cannot see the strong soldier we are in the process of becoming. We only feel the oppressive beatdown and like GI Jane, life is kicking us in the face, and we feel defeated by our enemies. But something within us keeps reaching upward, even when we do not know why. This must be because we were all created to burst our confines and to bloom.

If you, like me, have been experiencing anger, frustration, or hopelessness, you may be experiencing tapas. Perhaps you are being asked to let go of your lower nature so you can be purified. Growth is the hardest thing in the world. Most people don't grow very much because it is hard. But keep fighting and moving forward towards the picture you have of yourself, the purified and the whole you, remembering that suffering, or at least struggle, is the only way the seedling can bloom.

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The Long Walk Home (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

How to feel when every person has fled.

Every fair-weather friend, every half-hearted lover.

You, beset with the frailty of age and illness,

even a socialite comes to it.

A barren desert that harbors no life as far as the eye can see

where the tinkling sound of fiestas and frivolous toasts are a distant memory.

What is life devoid of love, stripped of its amorous distractions?

Left with memories of what was and will never be again.

Left with the little good you contributed.

Hiding from the selfishness, lust, and greed you justified.

When aged you dance with the truth.

Go on denying, even to your dying day.

Keep running, or face it squarely?

Admit, if only to yourself, that on many occasions

you failed to do the right thing.

Moral failures, regrets-all of us riddled with them.

Admit them to those you harmed, and peace comes.

Better to confess your shortcomings than to hear them from others.

More admirable to admit that you were flawed and human

than to clumsily go on blustering into eternity with hidden sins.

Only degrees of sin separate us.

Though the biggest person admits his doom,

he cannot nullify the price that shall be paid in the hereafter.

Only does it cleanse the conscience so he can die in peace.

Therefore, it is a good state, alone to ponder your deeds.

Try not to resent it.

Love,

Frida

Do-It-Yourself by Devi Nina Bingham

The biggest moment, and so few knew

I did this thing all by myself.

Family and friends hadn't a clue

So, I set the degree upon a shelf.

Most of my life is a do-it-yourself.

It's my own choice to live this way

ever since my hair turned grey

the only one I care to impress

is my dog, on a good day.

I'm a reclusive, if reluctant, success. 

Eclipse by Devi Nina Bingham

In a world of sound, disturbance and noise

you walked on a silent, perfect white cloud

and I went deaf at your wordless, glad poise

as you shouted over the din of the crowd.

 

From different worlds, like day and night

my sun did shine, your moon did set

I held your light ever so tightly

afraid that I hadn’t captured you yet.

 

But the moon only shines when darkness has fallen

when it’s hushed, unbound, and forever free

so you fled from me as the sun was setting

and I still rise for you, though you don’t see.

 

Our best day was together

was an eclipse in the weather.

The Philosophy of Eugenics (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

Illness is a failure. Not a moral failure, but rather, a physical restriction that prevents us from being our best self. And we all want to present the world our finest side, don't we? However, disease forces us to reveal our brokenness, vulnerability, and humanity. I am not implying that my diseases made me any less of a strong person, because it takes fortitude to withstand a condition like Polio and chronic pain. It is heroic to persevere in the face of hardship, discomfort, and limits.

Heroic, you say. In what way is illness heroic? Because it is difficult enough to live on this planet. For one individual, eking out a living, navigating the difficulties of relationships and attempting to comprehend the meaning of life and existence, is sufficient. But then you have an accident that leaves you permanently crippled, like mine did. Or an illness hits as a youngster, like Polio did for me, and you are permanently marked as different. All of a sudden, the course of your life has changed and you adjust your dreams appropriately. It is heroic to bear a disease because, in addition to living the life that healthy people lead, you also have to navigate a second layer of life, all the while attempting to appear as though life is a lark. A hero is someone who can carry twice as much while maintaining a courageous demeanor and a can-do attitude.

People who are not part of the circle of disease are unable to comprehend this and may regard individuals who are unwell as less important. And this is the question facing civilization. Is it better to evaluate someone based on their value as a worker or soldier, or upon their inherent value as a person created in God's image? The aged, sick, and disabled are less worth less, if not worthless, when value is only determined by output. And a lot of individuals believe just this way. Someone is said to be a drag on the economy if they are unable to produce enough. But these ignorant politicians forget that they will also grow old and ill and be reliant on society to support them. But they won't exclaim, "Since I no longer work, it is off to the slaughterhouse with me!" They will argue, instead, "I have worked and contributed, and it is only right that society bear with me because of illness." The young and powerful will bear the brunt of their economic burden. That's the way life naturally goes.

What if, however, a politician claims that the old or the crippled are the issue? What if the government neglects its responsibility to care for the mentally and physically ill, veterans, and the elderly who have limits they did not request? Then there is justification for the government to ignore people, deny them social help, or even eradicate them. This may sound harsh or unlikely, yet the Nazis actually did this. The old, the crippled, anyone who was different, even children were collected up and people who couldn't work in a camp were thrown out like garbage.

Would something like this ever happen again? Keep in mind that a giant tree starts as a little seed. There was a political movement behind every law. Originally, all political movements were merely philosophical. All philosophical ideas were once thoughts, and all thoughts were once only feelings. Movements develop in this way. The false belief that one human is superior to another based only on physical attributes is known as eugenics, and it was this belief that spread among the German people. The idea that one gender is superior or that one religion is superior originated from the idea that one genetic line is superior. Throughout history, eugenics has been the cause of conflicts and fatalities. Could it occur once more? It is taking place! The seed has been sown, and leaders and their followers are growing the bitter seed that leads to ruin.

But why would anyone fall for such a harsh and senseless philosophy? Due to fear. The emotion that sows the seed is fear. They don't want to be caught in the rain because they can see the storm clouds brewing. "It's excellent," they say, pointing to the storm. When blood starts to pour, they defend it by saying, "Blood is terrible, but it has to be done." Pretending not to notice, they turn their backs on the worst of it. In any case, their guilt is equal to that of the executioners. Fear has the power to turn otherwise decent individuals into killers and liars.

Furthermore, they are blind to the fact that they are supporting an ideology that has been shown to be scientifically incorrect. According to genetic research, all humans started out with the same features: wide noses, dark eyes and dark skin. Humanity originated in the same part of Africa. Since we all sprung from the same seed, we share the same ancestry. It's true that humans diverged and developed many bodily changes, including lighter skin and eyes. My argument is that we are genetically related, not just by name. Since we are all members of the human race, there is no superior race.

Will stop this folly and reveal the truth at any cost, or will you, out of fear, support the aggressors who spread eugenics? I don't see strength when I see racists, I see cowards. I see uneducated individuals denying reality. It will become clear to them that we are all linked and that no blood line is better than any other with just a little investigation. However, as falsehoods are simpler, they decline to look for the truth. Like kids hiding under their mother's skirts, I don't think this kind of bafoonish conduct is admirable.

Everyone will have to decide whether to support the real heroes, or the aggressors. Because I struggled against oppression while also suffering, I chose to be a hero. You see, a hero is not someone who hides behind a shield, but rather, someone who stands without one. I would never call you brave if you hide behind a political party's falsehoods. Being heroic is calling out the storm for what it is and standing your ground against it even when you can see it coming quickly.

With Love,

Frida

The Madcaps (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

I wish to speak openly and plainly to those innocent souls who find themselves persecuted for being only who they are. Those who were given a certain skin color and nationality at birth yet demonized because of the cultural heritage they bring. They call it "assimilation," meaning that you are not to abide by your own way of being, but to talk and look like a white American. To assimilate is to repress whatever may threaten their way of life, though never did you harbor rebellious intentions. You were bringing a different flavor of perspectives and experiences and were shocked when your gift was rejected. It was not only your way of life which was marked as erroneous, but you yourself, and this was the biggest surprise. Your person was deemed inferior, and your familial history was marked as suspect, even dangerous. Beloved history, telling of your family's struggle to survive was used as evidence that you were a product of weak genetics and an inferior work ethic. 

These criticisms amounted to making you feel less than, what you had never felt before, since your family had always loved and cherished you. Having been assigned this marker of sub-human, you trudge through life with your head down and your eyes lowered. You would rather follow than lead because you do not wish to stand apart from the crowd anymore than you already do. Your confidence has taken a beating, and you only feel safe at home. It is to these souls which I speak, for I have experienced the societal disparage which I describe. What is most unsettling about attempts to force assimilation is that it has never stopped. Racial profiling is as American as apple pie and the 4th of July. Prejudice is woven deep into the fabric of American society, as is the idea of eugenics, the belief that one set of features is superior. Of course, the eugenicists are white, and according to them the blonder your hair is, the purer you are. However, humans began with dark features which are considered sub-human by Arians, which means of course that your ancestors were like mine; we are one big family whose genes have been mixed up over the march of time but still, genetically speaking, we all from the same seed. In truth, there is no superior race, there is only our race. This begs the question: how does humanity, splintered into groups with differing physical and cultural characteristics, acknowledge our sameness? There was one during my lifetime that attempted to eradicate the differences by extermination, the "final solution." The end game was to crush the poor, unfortunate, and the immigrant. What stopped this madness? Nations fought together against this great foe. In the process, many brilliant and creative souls perished, and literature and art were destroyed. Anything of beauty which would inspire was stolen and hidden, or demolished. Because where there is hate, truth and beauty will not be tolerated. The goal is to root out all those who will not serve the regime with a genuflect loathing of themselves. 

What to do about the latest round of fascism, those who say they speak for God though God is father to us all? Those who boast holiness in public while in secret make dark deals that betray even children? In order to remedy the division, opposite force must be used. Nations must come together, locking arms to stand against the aggressor. There is no other way, for a madman will never admit that he is mad, nor will he step down peaceably. Madmen want one prize over all, which is power. The power-hungry tyrant will never step away from his tyrannical throne. History shows that these must be torn down. Peaceful protests will not move them, only a threat to their own existence. Until this happens tyranny will reign. I am not advocating violence, only as a last resort. These are dangerous times that are only an echo of worse times. Look to history to show the way. 

To the intellectual and artist: they will target you because you dare to speak out. They will denounce you as a liberal when you use logic and science. From one artist to another, I would say to be as stealthy as you can and stay out of the limelight. But continue to research, to write, to paint and sculpt, to act and dance, and to make music, though the madcaps will denounce your art as useless. To them, creativity and beauty is useless for it does not make them money. But it contributes greatly to the happiness of society, what they care nothing for. They do not value happiness, they value productivity. To hell with happiness. In their world, turn the sky gray and lifeless with smoke from the atom bomb, and may the rays of the sun never shine again. So low are the dark and depraved thoughts of their minds. While the artist will toil all day to give the world even a scrap of hope, the madcaps are scheming to bring more terror and destruction. Based on this, who then are God's chosen? The ones who bring death, the proprietors of misery, or those who bring mercy and hope?

When you see people gone mad, meaning that they have traded their souls for money, cruelty will be their calling card. Ask yourself: Is what they are doing unjust? If the answer is yes, there you have a madcap. Justice becomes a weapon by which they excuse cruelty. They will make everyone's life much harder and still they will be hailed by their malevolent followers. Know that you cannot follow evil without taking a part of that evil into yourselves. It will seem to you that sanity and decency has flown, and like a virus insanity has invaded their minds, for they smile at ruthlessness and applaud horrific acts in the name of God and progress. This has been so since the dawn of time; there have been madcaps in every age. Usually, they are in positions of power by bullying their way to the top. 

I tell you, try not to despair because in the end they will die or be defeated. Evil cannot triumph over good. Cruelty never triumphs over mercy. The better angels always win; it is only a matter of time. Take a breath and know that there is a force in this world which can be counted upon in every man, woman, and child who has not given themselves over to evil, which will rise up to defend knowledge and beauty, the two pillars of society. The madness is temporary and eventually, help will be on its way. Until then, persist in truth, knowledge, and beauty. 

With Love,

Frida

Frida the Reconstructed (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

The systems of this world are corrupt and therefore, broken. Like my body, which had so many fractures; my spine, the column that supported the entire structure had been cracked too many times to reassemble. I wore supportive braces beneath my dresses so no one would suspect that I was an unfortunate accident. Yes, I became the accident and not the victim while still a young and carefree girl whom life had not yet corrupted, the sacrificial lamb, so that in adulthood I was little more than brokenness and sorrow. Never did I smile for the cameras, for the joy and innocence of youth faded after the second great accident, that of my marriage.

I did not marry for convenience as many women of my time were known to do. I thought it reprehensible for a woman to give herself to a man she cared little for in exchange for his financial support. To me, it was like selling one's most intimate secrets for pennies on the dollar. But I was a lowly woman in my own way. Though I married for love, which I considered the highest ideal, it came at a high price. Whether for love or convenience, the institution of marriage exacts its pound of flesh. It requires each one to set aside their own wants and needs and to consider the other first. Not many people are really prepared for such a sacrifice. I watched my parents set aside their dreams to care for their children, so I understood it. Thus, in my marriage I became the sacrificial lamb. I reasoned that if I came second, he would love me more. And if I kept silent, I could not steal his limelight, though his art had enjoyed much more acclaim than my own by this time. And this is how I lowered myself. I dimmed my light so that his would rise. In this way I lowered myself. I would caution you that there is never a circumstance in which your voice or talent should be traded for another's, because yours is a unique and necessary gift. I am not encouraging divorce, for it will tear your heart out. If you can stay together and still sing your individual song, you should. But men especially take it hard when a woman's accomplishments eclipse theirs, especially a lover. In this case, it is better to go your separate ways rather than cheat the whole world out of your talent to save one man's ego.

I never wanted to be Frida Kahlo the Mexican icon who strangers confess their love for, and devotion to; not at first, anyway. Now I do not mind if they worship at the fount of Frida. Like the dear virgin, my presence is at Casa Azul as it must be, for who else will attend to the prayers and good wishes murmured by adoring fans? But today my ego is not fed as it was when I was Frida the Reconstructed. Then I needed every stroke, being terrifically incomplete. I was isolated by my illness, and lonely; my body in tatters and my heart shredded and paper-thin. I needed to hear that I was brilliant, that I had triumphed and gotten the last laugh. But had I? I managed to stitch together a portrait of Frida made of paint, and she spoke from the canvas because the real me had fallen silent. Frida the Reconstructed had no more heart, for it had been ripped out. Thus, I painted two hearts connected, The Two Fridas. And between the whole and incomplete me, I became the icon. 

Do you understand? Sometimes one must build a likeness of themselves so they can keep going. For if you present yourself as you really are, on the inside, you would be called a bore, and self-possessed. But wasn't I self-possessed when my topic was always myself? This was because I dared not express how it felt to be the real me. Nobody wanted to hear that said aloud. They only wished to hear stories of the phoenix rising from the ashes. Thus, I created a public me who smirked and smoked, a tougher version me who laughed only at irony. For life was and is ironic, making little sense when added up, but costing a trusting soul everything. 

What am I saying about The Two Fridas? That everyone has two sides to them, and they build the second out of necessity. In marriage you will inevitably see the dark side. You will be shocked at how different your spouse is from what the world sees. Your beloved will appear to you as the sun being eclipsed by a storm cloud. You may wish to tell others how different your spouse is from what the world sees but dare not. For if you revealed all of them there would be no mystery. And every person must keep their mask. It protects what hurts the most, as a turtle's shell does. Only keep this in mind, that it is wiser not to touch that part, the stormy part, the tucked-in part. You may hug the child who suffers within them, but best to not call it out. It takes sensitivity to walk around someone's faults, to observe as they struggle against themselves, but it is their struggle. Their life is theirs alone and brave no effort of the best intentioned can save them. You must walk on. Will they ever see how much you cared, how you only thought about them and longed to take their hand? Perhaps not in this lifetime. This is the disappointment, the bitterness of love. That you wished to walk hand-in-hand through life when they could not offer the same. Therefore, promises made are foolish. You cannot promise what you do not have, though they did. This is why I say that marriage is a trap. It catches you in unrealistic promises, usually that neither can keep though your intentions are rock-solid. 

Now my admirers do not make any promises, and I prefer it that way. Come and worship at the Fount of Frida for a day, or even a moment as you gaze at what became my fate. I always hoped that you would see some of yourself in my paintings. Perhaps the furrowed unibrow or the pursed lips; the incisions and the blood flowing mixed with the tears. And above all the heart pulled out and suspended like an offering. However you choose to relate to my life, my suffering, you are right. There are no wrong answers, only more questions, which is the beauty of abstraction. It is whatever you say it is. But however you relate to Frida the Reconstructed, remember that I am not she. For after death, which is not death at all, you become what you wished to be on earth but could not. Your idealized self, the not-broken you, the whole soul steps forward and claims the broken you. Then the parts broken and scattered in the wind make what was intended to be you but because of pain, could not be. Thus, I am not that broken woman anymore, the woman of many sorrows. Nor am I any nationality or tradition. All those trappings are forgotten in an instant, as the storm clouds clear away. What remains is a blazing light as bright as the sun which twinkles like the stars. You will light your own way, glowing and pulsing with new hope and courage. 

This is your ultimate destiny, my reconstructed friend. For now, wear your mask and your heart on your sleeve, and cry tears for the tower within which was busted. It seems such a waste now, all your love gone to waste. It seems hopeless now, because nobody can put it all back together. Maybe it needs to fall apart, spectacularly. Let it fall apart, because life always regenerates, haven't you noticed? It always comes back together, given enough time. We were all towers, broken down and busted. One day you will join me, Frida the Reconstructed, Twice: once on earth, again at death. The second time it will all make sense.

With Love, 

Frida

 

The Law of Supply and Demand (Dedicated to Frida Kahlo) by Devi Nina Bingham

There are only two ways to get what you want. Whether it is finding love, financial success, or anything else, there are only two paths that will lead you to it. The first way is known to all of you, it is how everyone in the world has been taught to obtain success, and that is to work hard for it. Sure, inheritances are given because someone else worked for it and has enough to share with you. In this case, you do not earn it. The second way, as compared to the world's way, may seem fanciful or impossible to the one who has never tried it. And, while there is nothing wrong with earning and spending, the second method, dubbed the Cosmos' way, is considerably preferable since it is practically spontaneous. You can conjure whatever you want with the flick of a finger, just like magic. I hope this will interest you enough to give it some thought, and to apply it. 

Have you ever met someone who somehow summons what they need when they need it without having to buy it? These folks desire something, and it emerges without any effort or intervention from them. What is their secret? Are they special, more deserving than you? If you talk to these folks, they will tell you that everything they need always appears, and that they do not work or try for it. They reach out their hands, just like a hungry child, and the food was delivered to them, that simple. Logic says that if it works for one individual, it will work for you as well. What does this individual do that you don't? Why does the Universe pay attention to those who do not believe in God, yet your prayers go unanswered? They believe in a metaphysical rule, not in God. You see, there are spiritual principles at work that apply to everyone equally. The rule of gravity applies to everyone, regardless of who they are or what their beliefs about God are.

Similarly, there are metaphysical rules that your religion, or lack thereof, cannot affect, and you have unknowingly used them before. They are fixed and unchanging, as solid and real as the visible physical laws. You may do an experiment to demonstrate the influence of gravity by dropping an apple into your hand (or on your head, as Sir Isaac Newton did). However, metaphysical rules exist in an etheric level. This means that they operate at a greater or lower frequency than the one you are now experiencing. A dog can hear pitches that you cannot, and you see in color, but the dog sees in black and white. This is because nature provided you with everything you needed to perform correctly. You were both created with the sensory faculties necessary to complete the task at hand. Evolution has given you the qualities of a human. You did not have to work for these adaptations; they arrived as a result of not just evolution, but also of your karma, which brought you here. But now is not the time for a discussion about karma; that is for another day. I am pointing out that while it may seem coincidental that certain people get what they want when they want it, it is not. Whether consciously or unconsciously, they are making use of metaphysics. 

I'll name it the Law of Supply and Demand. In order for the Cosmos, or the creative Cosmic Force, to respond, a demand must be made. You understand that you can't go to a diner and expect the cook to know what you want. No, the cook awaits your order before beginning to prepare your supper. The Cosmos can assemble everything you want or need, but you must request it. Not demand it, since if you take liberties and order the cook around, you are sure to receive anything from his kitchen that you will dislike! Order your desired item from his kitchen politely but confidently. Let me warn you that if you curse someone, the cook could agree with you. The cursed person may deserve unpleasant things, and the cook may inflict the curse. But be aware that whatever calamitous conditions they face, you are accountable for them. You, not the cook, placed the order. Curses exist and can be effective if the chef decides to use them, but you will bear the consequences. This is a negative application of the law. In any case, the cook is obligated to fulfill your request, which begins the minute you make it.

Your meal's cooking time is determined by a variety of factors. You may receive your dinner the same day, or you may have to wait a long time. The length of time it takes for your meal to be served is determined by a combination of the cook's urgency to serve you (remember, he has millions, if not billions, of other orders to fulfill), the other people involved, and the circumstances, which include weather, location, and a variety of mitigating factors. You may have your meal before the end of the day, or you may have to wait a lifetime for it. You will have to be extremely patient because so much is beyond your control. However, if you persist and do not amend your order, the cook is required to give you supper under the Law of Supply and Demand.

But what about these "instant manifestors?" How can these fortunate folks have their wishes fulfilled so quickly? They have mastered one concept, which they employ liberally: never doubt that it will come to you. Speak and act as if it is over, as if you are merely waiting for the parcel, which will arrive at any time. They do not change their opinions. If you are continually changing your mind, the planning must cease, right? That meal is discarded, and a fresh order is initiated. This all consumes precious time. If you truly desire something with your heart and soul, keep asking for it and remain excited that it is on its way. If you tell the cook, "I sure am hungry, and I am so excited for my dinner!" he will be eager to serve it. The Cosmos reacts to your requests, but not if they are selfish ("I deserve it!") or negative or doubtful ("He's never going to cook it"). Only if you trust the cook with your order will it be delivered. Supply and demand is a cooperative law. You must totally collaborate with the cook or the delivery person in order to receive it. Christ referred to this rule as "faith." He asked us to believe in a cosmic metaphysical rule.

I stated this metaphysical truth in the form of a story so that you might grasp it. We've all waited for food when we were extremely hungry, and we know how difficult it is to be patient. When the cook is inundated and the orders are backed up, we may wish to go and make our own meal, and you are welcome to do so! There is nothing wrong with it. It may be faster than waiting. However, there are instances when you need the assistance of a professional chef who can prepare better than you. If this is the case, and you require more assistance, place your order, knowing that it might be a short or lengthy wait. But once it is placed, your order is being processed, and soon you will be the next in line.

With Love, 

Frida

The Truth of Karma (Dedicated to Frida Kahlow) by Devi Nina Bingham

You have a propensity to prepare and save for a rainy day. Since the day may come when the reserves may be required, it is not a bad idea to be ready for the worst. Will you, however, allow me to warn you to balance enjoying life with being ready to care for yourself? When you have finally gathered the necessities, it is time to stop worrying about what lies ahead and what could happen to you. Because no matter how well you prepare, the weather may and probably will take a turn you did not expect. After that, who can you trust? Nobody needs to be your reliance since everyone is busy with their own concerns. In an emergency, it will be every man for himself with most people. Shouldn't you stress, worry, and concern yourself because you will ultimately have to rely only on yourself? One day you may have to depend upon God to provide for you. Yet you dismiss, "Do you expect me to believe that manna is going to rain down from Heaven to feed me?" Yes, I am stating just that. You see, even though believers are instructed to accept the Bible literally, a large portion of it is made up of tales and parables. Indeed, the Bible is a historical record because historians of the time attested to the fact that Jesus was a genuine person who lived on earth, just like you and I. However, it is a text that provides both history and teachings.

The Israelites' desert wanderings are described in the Bible as one of its teachings. For their sustenance, God sent manna from heaven. Regardless of your opinion of the verifiability of this manna, the principle and lesson it teaches is applicable today. You should be able to tell what this narrative is trying to teach you: you will be blessed when you are in need. But because God is not a wish dispensary, there are occasions when prayers go unanswered. God's dispensary is karmic. It distributes whatever is coming to you, but it may not give what you want and ask for. 

"Do children deserve to suffer?" you could ask. Although you might not agree with this response, I never was one to mince words. When pain occurs, it is never uncalled for. This is the response: "Explain how an innocent child deserves to suffer!" To obtain a clear and persuasive explanation, I would need to investigate their previous lives. It might seem reasonable to argue that a child's suffering is unjust. A youngster is too little to cause affliction to other people. A soul, however, could have lived hundreds or thousands of lives. It is OK for those who do not believe in karma to reject this response. You do not have to believe it is oxygen you are breathing to breath it!

Karma, according to some, is a thin pretext for an imaginary God. Well, then, keep on with the belief that there is no creator and no karmic system. Karma is not slowed in the least, and God smiles at objections because breaking the law, even if ignorant of the law, will not remove the consequences. Others ask why God punishes at all if He is love. What happens to a youngster who never receives reprimands? If its acts have no repercussions, does its character develop appropriately? Isn't it a spoilt brat that becomes unbearable as an adult? We are held responsible for our actions so that we can develop and become model students.

Karma is real, my dear friends, and it haunts us until the day we die, and beyond. By beyond, I mean after death. Our actions follow us into the afterlife in the same way that you would carry a bag on a well-earned vacation. Your name appears on the baggage as it rotates in the luggage carousel, but you might not want to claim it since it contains unwanted items. You quickly pass the carousel on your way to Heaven. However, your baggage is waiting for you when you arrive at the bottom of the escalator. "I can't bring this!" is what you think in a panic. "Heaven will not accept me." After stepping around it, your luggage is waiting for you at the top. Since karma is yours, you can't escape it. And eventually you'll need to break it all down and describe what's within. Yes, as they must, our actions haunt us on the other side. We have to learn to take responsibility for the baggage we have produced. Life after life, your bag will be waiting for you, and you keep it with you until it is empty. Once emptied, you will no longer be burdened, which means you will stop incarnating and be able to relax and have fun.

Karmic cycles: how long do they last? Until you've learned the lesson. What do you learn? To accept accountability for your deeds, and to discover who you are. At first glance, this seems simple. You would answer sarcastically, "I always take responsibility for myself." Should we question others about your honesty and transparency? How would they respond? However, the truth has already been recorded and is played back to you, so you don't need to question yourself or anybody else. This should inspire you to live a more enlightened life since you know that karma exists and will be carried over from one incarnation to the next. 

You see, God can punish people without your assistance. They are not getting away with it, despite the appearance that they are. Not at all. All they are doing is postponing the inevitable. They believe the luggage will vanish if they walk around it. Consequently, make an effort to accept accountability for both your positive and negative actions. To lessen karma, one can apologize. It's an indication of humility. If you have a difficult time apologizing, you are pretending. People would want to act as though they are not the issue. And, if they so want, they may continue living in denial forever. But who wants to live in a never-ending circle of suffering for all eternity? 

This letter serves as a reminder that eventually you must face the consequences of your actions. It's like a kid who stole chocolates. It tasted really sweet, and the store owner had no idea. In this world, the business owner might not suspect. However, part of the candy remains in the child's pocket, and something will happen in his next life to level the score--perhaps something will be taken from him. I believe that honesty is the best policy; be honest with yourself and put things right when you can. If you try to make things right but your apology or attempt to reconcile is denied, you are free. You have removed the mark against you. 

You cannot keep karma from accumulating, that is part of life. As long as you are in a body, karma will be nipping at your heels. Simply become more self-aware. Examine your deeds and motives. When you find a crack in your foundation, seek to repair it. If you pretend it is not there, karma will make note of it for later. I have simplified these concepts of spiritual laws so you can easily conceptualize them because simple is good. Simple is me. The truth is always simple, and I have always loved telling the truth.

With Love,

Frida

Spirituality is Simple (Dedicated to Frida Kahlow) by Devi Nina Bingham

"Being spiritual is an existential reality, not a decision. Spirituality is easy; it was never intended to be so difficult. For the believers, customs and regulations are in place. But in actuality, spirituality is not a choice despite what the term "believer" implies. It isn't picked as you would pick a partner, chosen after serious deliberation. This suggests that there are a plethora of varieties and approaches to faith. But even a youngster can comprehend the system since it is so basic. According to Christ, we shall not see the Kingdom of Heaven unless we approach it as children. What does spiritual simplicity then mean?

Take a look at nature; it holds all the mysteries and secrets. Every particle of life contains geometry. Numbers, particularly geometric forms and patterns are present in all sentient beings, even non-sentient materials. Does it not make perfect sense that life itself should have a spiritual blueprint? And what gives life its sentience? Naturally, DNA, the components that make up life. A sperm and an egg combine to form DNA, a genetic code for growth. Your mother gave you half of your special design, and your father gave you the other half. Then your DNA is passed on to your children. This is life: a system which has functioned perfectly as intended for billions of years.

This is precisely how the human family was constructed: a mother and a father, and we are their children. How much more straightforward could it be? Even if you might not consider yourself a child of God, it is comparable to an adopted kid. It thinks the adoptive parents are biological and is unaware of the truth. But a DNA test would reveal the truth in a flash. Without ever questioning our beginnings, we are born to earthly parents. We think that there is no mother in this creation equation, as religion has taught us. But use rationality and logic, I say. Without the egg, it doesn't work. When we hear this truth, it sounds incorrect because religious patriarchy has conditioned us to deny it.

We are all equal because we are offspring of the Gods, regardless of our gender or nationality. This is pure spirituality without the human trappings. Instead of judging their children as superior or inferior, deserving or unworthy, a wise parent recognizes that they are all a part of me and that they are mine. Likewise, all of us are a part of God's family. The idea that you are better than others is an act of rejection of God's method. Being the largest fruit in the garden, the watermelon should be favored, according to this idea that one should dominate another in God's garden. This kind of thinking lacks depth and is uninformed about diversity. With billions of varieties, we are God's garden. Yet we have been divided into genders, groups, forms, and colors. We all belong to the same group-that of human. All of us were sent to this planet with the intention of honoring our parents by getting along with one another. Spirituality is just that. It is not a form of worship; that is a human invention. It's not even the Ten Commandments. What is divine is not decided by sacred texts, prophets, priests, seers, or monarchy. Your DNA is divine.

You are spiritual. The very cells that make up your body are dynamic and part soul, which is spirit. God's mathematical signature is contained within each atom of your biological makeup. In contrast to Christ's teaching that we should look inside, humanity spends its entire existence gazing up and outward. But the truth is engraved in your DNA. Spirituality is a part of who you are. Spirituality is therefore you. It was never external. Therefore, a shrine is disrespected when we treat one another disrespectfully. The Holy Spirit resides inside us; didn't Christ teach us? Furthermore, what is this spirit if not the soul? We have been brainwashed. We have been indoctrinated, divided into different religious groups. Into this and that nation. Into this and that nationality. Into one culture and another. Into one gender and another. Into one sexual orientation and another. Partition, partition, partition. While we are one people under God. Governments and, before them, churches have sold us a policy of separated humanity!

I want you to consider everyone else to be just like you for just one day, even just one hour. But it is almost impossible to look in a straight and accurate manner since our minds are so deceived by what we perceive. However, it is time for us to examine our own behavior and mindset. Are we practicing the idea that every person is a temple, as taught by Christ? Do we treat everyone with the deference they deserve? Are you honoring the divinely created spiritual system? Are you conscious of your divinity, and your deep connection to all people? You should not be religious since God is not religious. Yes, there is no religious preference or allegiance for God. Avoid making things overly complicated. Now realizing that you are a member of a large spiritual family you never have to experience loneliness again. If you remember this truth, you will be free."

With Love,

Frida